Having been there - Unless the friend can provide details so that the cheating spouse can't just say "no that isn't so" it makes for a really dificult situation.

Whats really funny - you want to know - but it is even more painful when you are in a situation where your cheating spouse doesn't even have the consideration to be discreate.

I agree with the part about being able to work on the marriage. The funny thing is - once a indescretion is admitted and brought to light - things are never the same again.

They can be good in a different way - but they are never the same.