Kel, thanks. About the toilet seat, Marge has explained really kindly to me what would happen if she were to go in there in the dark and plop down on the porcelain! Since she works the night shift 7pm to 7am, she keeps it pretty dark in our bedroom.

And so I've developed the habit. And there are things that I like for her to do that she has learned to do, so it's a two-way street.