Soon I'm gonna change to a thread going forward, but I don't seem ready to give it up yet.
@ Kelly, I don't feel like a good mom, I wish I had taken him in.
They were in their approx second week of molt. Hindsight is just the worst thing! (that's not what I really wanted to say as an adult; use your imagination)!
@ Adrianne&C, thank you.
@ Aida, they are VERY emotional. The longer you have your budgie, you will see it. I will be ok, I just hope Stella will.
@ Jeanne, I have pics on my phone and computer. I'm having a problem right now about that. I need to get another phone, but I will not do that till I (or more likely friends) can figure out exactly where they ALL are, Merlins too, and how to get them someplace else! Grrrrrrrrrr. I wish I knew more about technical stuff!
@ BLR, You are right. There are no words and it's awful isn't it?! Thanks for thinking of me and Tweety and Stella.
@ Illusive, I'm trying to find ways to be up-beat for her and at the same time, acknowledge her grief and show her I understand. And BTW, nothing you say is "just a thought"! I appreciate anything you have to say.
Re putting them together: I'm not so sure of that now. Actually I'm not that sure that Julliet is a female! She is white, only a little bit of color so she has a pink cere with a little white around the nares and pink feet. She is bigger than Romena, and takes all her meanness, and defers to her, and warbles like a male, so I don't know! although they have never acted like a couple and the only time I've seen Romena in breeding mode was when she first came to live with us. That's when she immediately layed 7 eggs! (i know it was her since one popped out as I was walking by her cage one day). Ever since, she tried to move heaven and hell to get to Tweety. So if Julliet is a male, I can't put the two females together with him/her, and also, Stella is a layer. I have a handle on that, but she would lay if she/he is a male. I will have to really figure that out.
I'm going to try to get them in on Friday. It's a little over-whelming to think of getting all three of them herded and into the travel cage. Now that I said that, I realize I CAN'T put them all in the travel cage together! Waaaaaaaaa! maybe I will have to take her in Friday and the others on Monday! Anybody got advise?!
I looked on line today for parakeets grieving for mate, and got some interesting and daunting info.
1. Getting another friend for her could actually make it worse. She is already stressed out and a new bird will result in added stress. Also, there's the quarantine thing, especially since I don't know what Tweety actually died from. And she may even kill it, in her stress.
2. Keets often die shortly after their mate dies. Grieving parakeets are very susceptible to illness. Losing a mate causes stress which in turn causes the immune system to become compromised.
3. Sometimes keets will die from grief and no other reason can be found.
So I've got a lot to consider here and I'm even more worried now. A friend is going to keep coming over to visit with her a few times a day.
Worried keet lovers: I have a handle on my sorrow and sadness, for Stella. As I said above, I need to figure out how to be up-beat for her and at the same time show her that I understand her grief. As a flock member I have to grieve with them. She has SUCH expressive eyes. I can't ignore her grief, but at the same time now, after learning all this, I must find some way to take them forward. All advise I've read says it will take at least a month and possibly three months for her to come out of her grieving. This is horrible and any advise will be appreciated.