LisaShea Forum Logo
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 1 of 2 1 2
My ex is in a coma... #391733 12/17/09 05:37 AM
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 6
L
lovelytiel Offline OP
New Member
OP Offline
New Member
L
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 6
I just found out today that my most recent ex has been in coma for a few months already. I was so shocked when I heard it & all I know is that he was in a car accident. We were together for almost 2 yrs & broke up October last yr. It was a mutual break up & we had talked to each other maybe once or twice since then. It wasn’t the best relationship but we had some good memories. I really want to know what really happened…He was such a good & careful driver. I’m thinking to visit his family but I don’t know if I should. I met his Mom & relatives only about twice but they probably still remember me...Part of me really wants to see him, to see how he’s doing, but at the same time I don’t want it to cause such an impact in my life right now. I’ve been through a lot of stress lately & I don’t know if I’m ready to seeing him like this...What would you do? I just can’t stop thinking what’s happening to him. Life is so unexpected...All I remember is his address, his # is of course no longer in service & I don't have his home #.

Last edited by lovelytiel; 12/17/09 05:39 AM.
Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: lovelytiel] #391735 12/17/09 05:56 AM
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 4,035
BLR Offline
Copper Star Soulmate
Offline
Copper Star Soulmate
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 4,035
How did you find out he is in a coma?

Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: BLR] #391741 12/17/09 07:34 AM
Joined: Mar 2009
Posts: 1,663
tweetymom Offline
Best Friend
Offline
Best Friend
Joined: Mar 2009
Posts: 1,663
Lovelytiel, I would just let it go. I know exactly what you mean, though. I have a hard time letting people go that have been in my life. But I don't always act on it. In fact, I have to be hard on myself about this very subject. Sometimes it's kinder to just maybe make a phone call to the family and give your sympathy. It's so easy to just let things slide into your life, and you have other things in it now. If it were me, that's what i'd do. Of course, if you are still in love with him, that would really be a can of worms, huh?

Last edited by tweetymom; 12/17/09 07:36 AM.

Dinah, Tweetymom

RIP precious Merlin
7/11/1990-11/17/2009
RIP Tweetylove
5/13/2010
Rest with Merlin
Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: tweetymom] #391748 12/17/09 09:21 PM
Joined: Jun 2009
Posts: 136
Gustafson Offline
Companion
Offline
Companion
Joined: Jun 2009
Posts: 136
I would think of it like this, if I don't go see him now, and he dies, am I going to regret not seeing him? From that you know whether you should visit him or not.

Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: Gustafson] #391759 12/18/09 01:17 AM
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 4,035
BLR Offline
Copper Star Soulmate
Offline
Copper Star Soulmate
Joined: Mar 2008
Posts: 4,035
Random thought, do you want that image in your head?

Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: BLR] #391761 12/18/09 01:32 AM
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 22,790
PDM Offline
True Blue Soulmate
Offline
True Blue Soulmate
Joined: Dec 2004
Posts: 22,790
I agree with Gustafson.

Would you feel better ~ both long term & short term ~ if you saw him or if you didn't see him?


"The secret of success is constancy to purpose" - Benjamin Disraeli.
Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: PDM] #391772 12/18/09 06:39 AM
Joined: Jul 2008
Posts: 1,766
jilly Offline
Best Friend
Offline
Best Friend
Joined: Jul 2008
Posts: 1,766
I also agree with Gustafson. This will be something you won't be able to go back and change if you decide later you needed some closure. Think on it. I am sure whatever you do will ultimately be the right call. smile


Jilly
LisaShea.com Forum Moderator
Frugal Living Editor at BellaOnline.com
App owner - RunPee.com - to help you find the best movie breaks smile
Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: jilly] #391863 12/20/09 01:00 AM
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 6
L
lovelytiel Offline OP
New Member
OP Offline
New Member
L
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 6
My ex & I used to go to the same dentist. My family has been going there for a while too so we all know the staff very well. I found out about his situation through my sister when she went to have her cleaning done. I guess the assistant called his home regarding to his dental paper work or something & his Mom told her...I'm thinking to just get his home number from the assistant (I used to work with her briefly & we talked about our relationships all the time) and call his Mom, just to see how he's doing...

I just want to know what happened & how he's doing for now that's all. Do you think it's appropriate for me to call his Mom? She was pretty fond of me back then.

Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: lovelytiel] #391866 12/20/09 01:22 AM
Joined: Jul 2008
Posts: 1,766
jilly Offline
Best Friend
Offline
Best Friend
Joined: Jul 2008
Posts: 1,766
I think that calling his mom sounds like a lovely idea. It shows you care. It shows you are a nice person. This is probably a very difficult time for her.

Last edited by jilly; 12/20/09 01:22 AM.

Jilly
LisaShea.com Forum Moderator
Frugal Living Editor at BellaOnline.com
App owner - RunPee.com - to help you find the best movie breaks smile
Re: My ex is in a coma... [Re: jilly] #391946 12/22/09 07:54 AM
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 6
L
lovelytiel Offline OP
New Member
OP Offline
New Member
L
Joined: Oct 2009
Posts: 6
I still haven't called his Mom yet...somehow I feel very nervous about whatever news she is going to tell me, since the dental assistant talked to her about 2 months ago already...

This is much harder than I thought. Part of me really wants to know what's going on, but the other part just wants to let it go. I have both his address & his home phone here in my hand, but I don't feel ready to make a move yet cry

Last edited by lovelytiel; 12/22/09 07:56 AM.
Page 1 of 2 1 2

Moderated by  Lisa Shea 

Search

Latest Posts
FREE! Science Fiction Sweet Romance
by AlyssakPatterson - 06/15/21 11:25 AM
Dreaming of Losing a Pet
by Jane Pierce - 06/01/21 05:08 AM
nike kyrie 5 en soldes
by RuardGreve - 06/01/21 01:53 AM
nike pg 5 white sale
by RuardGreve - 06/01/21 01:49 AM
adidas stan smith dames lichtblauw
by RuardGreve - 06/01/21 01:47 AM
Dieser Ring aus Sterlingsilber eignet
by RuardGreve - 06/01/21 01:45 AM
Privacy Policy
This forum uses cookies to ensure smooth navigation from page to page of a thread. If you choose to register and provide your email, that email is solely used to get your password to you. Nothing else. Ask with any questions!
Forum Areas

* General Discussion *



Books, TV, Movies

Da Vinci Code

Dreams

Japanese Culture

Life, Universe, Everything

Online Courses

Politics

Religious Research

Show Your Own Work

Work From Home / Writing


* Parakeets and Pets *



General Parakeet Chat

Keet Stories and Photos

Parakeet Photo Gallery

Budgie Training

Health and Medical Issues

Parakeet Breeding

In Memory Of ...

Non-Budgie Pets and Animals

Non-Budgie Animal Photos

Off-Topic for Keet Owners

Games

Animal Rights

Bird / Animal Books

Subscribe
Forum Guidelines
This forum takes web safety issues very seriously. Please make sure you have read and understood our Forum Guidelines before posting.
Sponsored Link
Support Our Friends
The Animal Rescue Site
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.3