Thank you, BLR, that helps to explain things much better!
I realize it is challenging to read posts when written by teens who have developed a "hip" way of speaking. I have been deluged by this for many years, with the questions that come into the RomanceClass.com advice area. In the beginning I used to try to "rewrite" the incoming letters before posting them, so that adults could understand what was being said. Over time I have given up
Now I just run what they write, as they write it. If we are to consider this person's phrasing "bad" then I have seen far, far worse than this.
Teens like to feel they have their own lingo. You can look back to the hep cats and the 23-skidoo and daddy-o and so on in previous generations. It is probably more noticeable nowadays because teens are speaking this way in areas that adults are trying to use. Also, that probably tends to reinforce the teens' desire to speak in a way that they feel makes them seem cool or with-it.
You can see that many of the teens on this board - from a variety of countries - misspell "enuf" or use the letter "u" to mean "you". I'm sure some of them don't even think about it, they think it's normal. The more someone is online and types with their friends, the more their style starts to feel "normal" and they don't even realize how it might appear to an outsider.
In terms of this particular user, his IP addresses (and he used several) all tie back to the Asia region. I don't have any sense, anywhere, that he is not from Bangladesh. Yes, he speaks in teenager leet-speak. But so do a gigantic (if not overwhelming) number of the letters for help that I get from India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and other countries in that region. That is apparently the way some teens talk over there. Not necessarily in his specific idiom, but each in his or her own style.
After all, they are growing up using computers, visiting Western websites, watching Western TV, and they have the same slang desires as other teens do.
I realize and fully understand that you were upset, feeling this person was a troll. However, PDM and I can see IP addresses. We can see the IP address of every single post. In the future, if you ask PDM and me to check, we can find out fairly quickly if the person is a US resident presenting to be a foreigner for troublesome reasons.
With the research I've done, I do think in this case that it was a troubled teen in a foreign country who came to us for help. We then accused him in what he took to be a confrontational manner of being a "bad representative of his country" - which I think would upset any teenager, of any country. Imagine if you were a teenager and someone said to you "You are an awful representation of what someone from the US would be like, stop faking that awful language" when you were being yourself. You would probably be hurt and upset, and would not react well.
I am not in any way condoning his response. I am just working my way through the events so we can all understand what happened.
I realize with our recent troll problem that it probably felt natural to make that accusation like that. I understand that completely. It is something that any forum member might have done, which is why I felt it was worth discussing.
I am asking, if we have another new poster in the coming weeks who seems foreign, that forum members ask PDM and me to check them out. We can perform our background check and then post the results publicly, so that everyone is either aware of a problem, or reassured that there is no problem.
Does that sound like a good solution?