When one stands alone, in the center, raving as to the unjustness of the situation at hand, whilst others are at ease and amused even, introspection is the quickest route to sanity. The question: what lay, traumatic and unresolved, in my past that was so seriously triggered by my current experience that I cannot separate the two and demand resolution through a third, unrelated and uninterested, party?
A community sees, and judges, and forgives, and fixes, and tolerates, and/or doesn't, etc. each other at a pace equal to the average experience of the whole. If this does not suit, one must either change, or leave for another community that operates at a different level and pace.
Be careful not to find an angry, on average, community. It won't take long to find yourself as being called the offender, no matter what you intended to 'mean'.
First off, there were more than one who found the situation offensive.
Second, is the uninterested party this forum, this community?
Third, while I have faith in a community to work out what needs to be tolerated, and what should be shunned, this forum is not really a community free to act on its own interpretations, or even its own average experience.
Fourth, I don't intend to either change or leave. I am courteous and respectful to all members. I am a fan of introspection, and I do open myself up to change at all times; but I don't think that I nor the ones who left need to change who we are. In fact, I plan to remain so that this so-called community doesn't forget and think that it's always been this way.
Finally, as far as the warning to avoid an "angry" community (or forum), I have no doubt that the calmest of communities can be stirred up by people who find normal discussion boring. And you might notice that I don't mention age. Being nice can happen at any age.