Wow. As for staying single, and what you can do, it's like trying to remember something elusive, IMO. As you think of other things and stop trying so hard, the thought comes that you've been trying to force. Likewise, when you concentrate on you and your own growth and interests, and don't consider that the other person is necessary, then it happens. Sharing of ourselves with others, and they with us, is best when both people are strong within themselves.