You are right, I was harsh. By the way in my other post I did not say grit was good for them, just that it does not hurt them. I have never ever heard of any parakeet dying from the consumption of grit, so if you have, let me know
I always do and always have told people not to use it. And I stand by the fact that holding a parakeet in a way that it does not hurt it, but it cannot fly away is no more cruel than picking up a kitten. Especially if you have had the bird for years.