I am trying to listen to and understand your suggestion.
Again, you are asking me to hold back on a deletion request. I did in fact do that - I was asked by someone to delete their account, and they kept posting. Because they kept posting, I delayed the deleting process. They got very upset with me! So I did exactly what you are suggestion - and I was yelled at. So that was not the right answer.
For the other three people, I deleted their accounts as asked promptly, and they were happy. So that appears to have been the right response.
As much as it might seem appealing to try to be "parental" to forum members, that rarely leads to happiness. It works best to respect a forum member's wishes, which I think we would all hope for? We would of course always welcome forum members back with open arms if they chose to rejoin us!
"If you love something, set it free.
if it comes back it's yours,
if it doesn't, it never was."
Giving someone freedom is not a sign of not caring - it is the sign of ultimate respect.