you are certainly not whining!!! being a mom is the worlds hardest job. you sound like a very concerned and loving mom, to me. splits can be sooo haed. you have as much control there as you do with what your birdie babies do. it is a very hard road, but it smooths out eventually (or so i'm told! lol) please don't loose heart or give up. your babies... two legs or two wings need you, no matter what you think. hope all goes well. keep me posted. hugs : )

baby blue