i really dont want to catch him and hold because ppl here on the forum told me it makes them loose my trust, i dont want to do that now do i, and why exactly should i take them to the bathroom? so they sit on my shoulder? why would they sit on my shoulder in the bathroom and not in the living room? i mean whats the difference? and should i call him by his name when i want him to step up or just say "UP", and how do i make him learn his name?